Can Being Married To An Unbelieving Mate Actually Work?

[bIZZYb]

Ok, so my second post to this forum.

As per my first post, I am looking at coming back to Jehovah. However, I have been in a relationship for the last 3 years. We broke up a year ago and are starting to talk again now.

She loves me with everything, whereas I dont really know what love is all about. I have closed myself off to a lot of people and dont have any understanding of what it means to truely love someone.

Anyways, the reason we broke up was because I said I needed to come back to Jehovah and I couldnt do that with her. Its been a year and I still havent made that step.

I know that I COULD love her... she is an amazing person. Obviously has her faults, and I seem to see a lot of the negative in her and the positive doesnt really fill me with joy. I put this down to me not knowing how to love tho.

I do know that if she was studying as well, that my heart would open to her in an instant.

My question is, could I continue a relationship with her while I was studying and if I was to marry her and she did not come into the Truth, how hard will it really be? Will it work? Am I just torturing both her and myself??

I know I will be told to marry her or leave her before I am baptised. What should I do???

[EmmaKay]

BB,

Firstly, Welcome to the forum. I hope you get answers to your questions and blessings on your quest for truth.

Ok, as regards your question....I guess I have a few of my own for you. If you don't mind me getting a little personal.
Why would you marry someone that you're not sure that you love? Even IF you COULD love her, make sure it's what you want to do, because here's the scenario going through my head...
First; you marry her, then start attending meetings, get baptized, then find out she wasn't the 'one' for you....and you want a divorce. That would be worse, IMO.

Second; Is she receptive to the truth? Does she have ANY faith or religious background? Have you tried to talk to her about these things?

Three; What's the point of getting married before going back? Is it to avoid hassels from Elder's or from your girlfriend? Or both?

Another scenario going through my head....IF she's NOT receptive, and you marry her...and she rejects Jesus and Jehovah, what if she doesn't 'make it' and you do? Would you want that heart ache? Not that any of our mates are guaranteed to make it, or ourselves for that matter...but you know what I mean?

Maybe these are non-issues for you, but something to think about.
I know I didn't answer your question, really....
I guess it all boils down to...Marriage is a sacred and beautiful thing that Jehovah has put together for us. It's not something to be taken lightly, Much thought should go into it and I don't think that you should get married to avoid 'getting in trouble' from the Elders or who ever, because no matter what you hide from men, Jehovah still sees it and knows your agenda.
Just make sure of what you are doing.


Again, Welcome aboard.

-EmmaKay